Hey,
This is gonna be a long post because I really feel down for a while now and can't stand it any longer. It's not even about me though but I'm laying my feels here so if you want to help just read this post patienly. I'm sorry but it'll be a long post. I think it might be the right place to share bc I'm so upset and ik u r the best community i ever was in so i hope to find a bit of understanding.
I just wanted to share a longtime problem I'm, no, my best friend is dealing with for now almost a year. You have to know that she is in the same class as I am and we're best friends. She just got sixteen last November.
One year ago she wanted to make this voltaire exchange for six months to France. You send the Voltaire program your formulas and they search someone in France who's just like you or fits your character or interests and you two make an exchange for one year, one year in France and one year here in Germany. She got all excited and happy to do this exchange because she's an open girl, she's an always happy and motivating person who's strong. She loves to meet new ppl (and to stalk them) but she's one of the nicest persons i know and she has a twin sister. So the ppl who work at this voltaire program are supposed to search someone who is just like you or atleast similiar, interests and stuff should be fitting but this wasn't the case, not really. When her exchange partner sent her a letter for the first time I read it and realized the exchange partner was like the opposite of my friend but she was super optimistic about it and said "It'll work somehow ;)".
When the exchange student came to our place she was a bit disappointed bc they really were like the definition of difference but since we didn't know the exchange student we gave it time to find out if they might not be good with each other. But then it started. Lets call the exchange partner K and my friend is V.
They didn't talk with each other, they did a bit in the bginning but they didn't talk. When they came home from school K walked into her room and only opened her door if they'd dinner. V didn't really care and neglected K like "if you don't care about me I don't care about you too". There was actually no problem back there, it was February 2k15. Then it started that V asked K if they wanna go together to some festivals bc there were many festivals back then (free concerts, festivals and stuff) but K said no. V went jogging everyday and asked K if she wanna go jogging with her but she said no again.
Later on V started to talk nasty about K when she was with me bc she was annoyed that K didn't wanna do anything and she said that K is boring and always in her room. Once K told one of my other friends that V doesn't have any hobbies. V irated and ranted a lot suddenly bc she always asked K to do sth with her but she was the one who said no. Then K started to rant about vegans ( V is vegan and really proud of it) and they,like, secretly hated each other? Atleast they survived the first six months somehow. K went home and V had two weeks untill she went to Paris. That was the last time i actually saw her, in summer when we had holidays.
So she was in Paris then and we used to skype call each other everyday at 7pm and she told me that she had to share a room with Ks sister. It wasn't that bad since her sisters were actually pretty nice and one of them was really cool she told me. She told me about her class in Paris about many cool and nice ppl. She told me what was bothering her: the house. She sent me pictures of the interior and it was dirty it looked like they were compulsive horders. She told me about disgusting stuff lying on the floor, at the toilet, everywhere. She told me that they always ate pasta with ketchup and V didn't eat much. She told me she always bought something or had to cook sth herself but no one cleaned the kitchen or the house or anything so she cleaned it herself. She told me that Paris was beatiful and all the ppl in her class were nice but she hated her exchange family.
You probably remember firday the 13th, paris incident? I tried to call V nonstop untill she replied me and she told me that she was okay. This was the point when she really should've cancelled the exchange. I wanted to have her back here so bad. Oh god i was so scared and worried about her. But she told me she can do this.
This week me and a few others like Vs twin sis got their exchange partners from a different exchange (one week to Nantes) and Vs twin sisters exchange student called V and they talked a lot. But they spoke in french and V told that the family is dirty and they're all stupid. When they had dinner she realized that the K and her sisters heard what she was saying and told her it's not alright. They told that she has no right to call them stupid or dirty and that it's not ok that she took photos of their rooms. They told that V is some kind of princess and that not everybody's as smart as her and that V neglected K since the beginning. V said "yes, it is dirty and i did not call you stupid its just stupid that you don't talk to me" She also said, yeah i know that i neglected K in the beginning and i never said I'm smarter than you. V went to her room and the family started to talk extra loud about her "Vi what a atrange name" "She can't even clear the table now" "When i came to her place her mother was about to change the diapers. Disgusting" "Her dad can't even speak german properly". V told everything to her twin sister in detail and she told me and i just got super angry. Her dad is a refugee from vietnam back then, all these arguments were invalid. I mean seriously? Would you clear the table after a talk like this? V told me she's hurt. She's rarely hurt, she never cries or anything she's like the strongest person i know. This happened a few days ago and know the family is now bullying her. This is mobbing. We know that she didn't do everything the right way but K didn't either, right? They're seriously bullying her and she's not good at all rn. I just want her to come back and I miss her. Im emotionally so down rn and crying. I just want her to come back home. She told me that she finally cancels the exchange bc she can't take it anymore.
Did one of you've ever been in a situation like this or did something similar happen? What do you think about this, how would you handle the situation? Idk what to say anymore. I just hope that my friend comes back as soon as possible.
This is gonna be a long post because I really feel down for a while now and can't stand it any longer. It's not even about me though but I'm laying my feels here so if you want to help just read this post patienly. I'm sorry but it'll be a long post. I think it might be the right place to share bc I'm so upset and ik u r the best community i ever was in so i hope to find a bit of understanding.
I just wanted to share a longtime problem I'm, no, my best friend is dealing with for now almost a year. You have to know that she is in the same class as I am and we're best friends. She just got sixteen last November.
One year ago she wanted to make this voltaire exchange for six months to France. You send the Voltaire program your formulas and they search someone in France who's just like you or fits your character or interests and you two make an exchange for one year, one year in France and one year here in Germany. She got all excited and happy to do this exchange because she's an open girl, she's an always happy and motivating person who's strong. She loves to meet new ppl (and to stalk them) but she's one of the nicest persons i know and she has a twin sister. So the ppl who work at this voltaire program are supposed to search someone who is just like you or atleast similiar, interests and stuff should be fitting but this wasn't the case, not really. When her exchange partner sent her a letter for the first time I read it and realized the exchange partner was like the opposite of my friend but she was super optimistic about it and said "It'll work somehow ;)".
When the exchange student came to our place she was a bit disappointed bc they really were like the definition of difference but since we didn't know the exchange student we gave it time to find out if they might not be good with each other. But then it started. Lets call the exchange partner K and my friend is V.
They didn't talk with each other, they did a bit in the bginning but they didn't talk. When they came home from school K walked into her room and only opened her door if they'd dinner. V didn't really care and neglected K like "if you don't care about me I don't care about you too". There was actually no problem back there, it was February 2k15. Then it started that V asked K if they wanna go together to some festivals bc there were many festivals back then (free concerts, festivals and stuff) but K said no. V went jogging everyday and asked K if she wanna go jogging with her but she said no again.
Later on V started to talk nasty about K when she was with me bc she was annoyed that K didn't wanna do anything and she said that K is boring and always in her room. Once K told one of my other friends that V doesn't have any hobbies. V irated and ranted a lot suddenly bc she always asked K to do sth with her but she was the one who said no. Then K started to rant about vegans ( V is vegan and really proud of it) and they,like, secretly hated each other? Atleast they survived the first six months somehow. K went home and V had two weeks untill she went to Paris. That was the last time i actually saw her, in summer when we had holidays.
So she was in Paris then and we used to skype call each other everyday at 7pm and she told me that she had to share a room with Ks sister. It wasn't that bad since her sisters were actually pretty nice and one of them was really cool she told me. She told me about her class in Paris about many cool and nice ppl. She told me what was bothering her: the house. She sent me pictures of the interior and it was dirty it looked like they were compulsive horders. She told me about disgusting stuff lying on the floor, at the toilet, everywhere. She told me that they always ate pasta with ketchup and V didn't eat much. She told me she always bought something or had to cook sth herself but no one cleaned the kitchen or the house or anything so she cleaned it herself. She told me that Paris was beatiful and all the ppl in her class were nice but she hated her exchange family.
You probably remember firday the 13th, paris incident? I tried to call V nonstop untill she replied me and she told me that she was okay. This was the point when she really should've cancelled the exchange. I wanted to have her back here so bad. Oh god i was so scared and worried about her. But she told me she can do this.
This week me and a few others like Vs twin sis got their exchange partners from a different exchange (one week to Nantes) and Vs twin sisters exchange student called V and they talked a lot. But they spoke in french and V told that the family is dirty and they're all stupid. When they had dinner she realized that the K and her sisters heard what she was saying and told her it's not alright. They told that she has no right to call them stupid or dirty and that it's not ok that she took photos of their rooms. They told that V is some kind of princess and that not everybody's as smart as her and that V neglected K since the beginning. V said "yes, it is dirty and i did not call you stupid its just stupid that you don't talk to me" She also said, yeah i know that i neglected K in the beginning and i never said I'm smarter than you. V went to her room and the family started to talk extra loud about her "Vi what a atrange name" "She can't even clear the table now" "When i came to her place her mother was about to change the diapers. Disgusting" "Her dad can't even speak german properly". V told everything to her twin sister in detail and she told me and i just got super angry. Her dad is a refugee from vietnam back then, all these arguments were invalid. I mean seriously? Would you clear the table after a talk like this? V told me she's hurt. She's rarely hurt, she never cries or anything she's like the strongest person i know. This happened a few days ago and know the family is now bullying her. This is mobbing. We know that she didn't do everything the right way but K didn't either, right? They're seriously bullying her and she's not good at all rn. I just want her to come back and I miss her. Im emotionally so down rn and crying. I just want her to come back home. She told me that she finally cancels the exchange bc she can't take it anymore.
Did one of you've ever been in a situation like this or did something similar happen? What do you think about this, how would you handle the situation? Idk what to say anymore. I just hope that my friend comes back as soon as possible.
